My life….

It’s been a little while since I’ve blogged. The reasons are varied, but bottomline is that I’ve been going through a lot of changes in my life of late and for the most part, I’ve been trying to deal with it all in compartments – each area by itself, without affecting the other parts. Needless to say, it has not been easy.

In my personal life, I got dumped by a guy I had been seeing for a few months. The fact of our break up wasn’t shocking – truth be told, I think we both knew this was not going to last long. The manner of break up though was very shocking to me and I have had to fight to reinforce and rebuild my self confidence. It is inevitable that people in relationships may not make it to the finish line….whatever that may be for each couple. What always gets me is how relationships do end. Some where in my fantasy world, I have always thought that I would have a conversation with the person with whom the relationship was no longer working and rationally discuss why we needed to stop. But it never happens that way. It seems one person is almost always callous with the other’s heart/emotions. Why is that? In any case, Mr. No-Ex and I are over and I have made peace with that fact. He was wrong for me on all levels, but I let myself be “romanced” into the relationship because I had been starved of attention and I certainly got what I deserved. Lesson learned.

The second other thing in my universe of course is my baldie. I am transitioning into a full head of African curls and the slowness of the process is only now getting to me. At the rate my hair is growing, I won’t even be able to put in braids until after six months at least! I am getting bored with the look, although I must say that I am enjoying the freedom that comes with bucking societal trends as it relates to women’s hair in Lagos. I have bought some hair products to try out but will wait a few weeks to see their effect on my hair before I recommend!

Third thing is the rain! It has affected me so much. My neighborhood is flooded and driving to and from home has been with a prayer. No light and floods, and yet I ought to be greatful because I have it much better than most of my fellow Nigerians. Yet gratitude is a struggle for me.

Last but not least, a close member of my family is dying of cancer and I find myself too paralyzed to help. I want to, but I keep avoiding her (and the whole cancer bit). My dad died of cancer and it was without exaggeration, the worst, most horrible time of my life and I just can’t bring myself to deal with cancer again. Which makes me a bad person since I know this really is NOT about me, but my aunt and somehow I cannot get over my self long enough to truly be of help to her.

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Posted by on June 27, 2011 in Life


Art in Lagos – week ending June 4, 2011

The following exhibitions are scheduled for this week. I hope to visit them all and I shall blog my experiences from whichever of the exhibitions I am able to attend.


Venue: National Museum, Onikan, Lagos

Opening: June 3, 2011



Venue: Nike Art Gallery, Lekki, Lagos

Opening: June 4 – June 10, 2011


BODY FORMATIONS, An exhibition of paintings by Ola Balogun and Josh Nmesirionye

Venue: The Life House, Victoria Island, Lagos

Opening: May 27 – June 10, 2011

Here is the invitation to the Body Formations exhibition

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Posted by on May 31, 2011 in Art



The Big Chop!

I did it!

Today, I made the big chop! Cut off ALL of my hair. I still can’t believe I did it. I am rocking a BALDIE!

Let me start at the beginning. Years of relaxing and weaving extensions into my hair have left my natural hair quite damaged beyond repair. I realized that to grow new, healthier hair, I would have to start all over again with my hair. But I was filled with trepidation. I live in Lagos, where women are guerilla-fashionistas with thousands of dollars worth of hair weaves on their little fashionista heads. Nigerians are not kind to non-conformists and shaving off all of my hair would certainly place me in the non-conformist territory. Nonetheless, I decided to go ahead with the chop. It is just hair after all. Let the dice roll where it may…or something to that effect!

Still I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was concerned about how my new baldie would be accepted by the folks in my life – my family, friends and co-workers. I will try to provide general reactions to my new baldie as more and more people see it.

One of my goals with this blog is to document my hair journey – the transition of my overly processed damaged hair to hopefully a more natural, healthier head of hair. I will try to explain each step of my journey with pictures and my personal experiences as an Afropolitan going natural in Nigeria.

My other major goal is to further develop my interest in contemporary Nigerian (and African) art. I intend to blog my discovery on these pages and hope this will be a useful starting point for anyone else interested in art.

I will also occassionally blog any other fun experiences of my life in the next year. Why the one year window? I have a major birthday coming up next year and if not now, when? 🙂

And here without further ado are the pictures from my big chop!

The first row is the Before (this is the hair style I have been rocking for the last six months. It is an 8-inch human hair weave called “Romance Curls” made by Supreme. It can be found in most beauty stores in Lagos, although I purchase mine at the Downtown Hair Salon on Muri Okunola in Victoria Island Lagos).

The middle row is the During (during my BC)

The last row is the After (after my BC)

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Posted by on May 30, 2011 in Hair


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